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Ways to Find Perfect Love

Love isn’t something that you can just explain with words, but one thing is certain: everyone needs to love and feel loved in order to be happy. Finding and understanding true love can be hard, even for someone that has had many relationships. We are simply not educated on the subject and must find information through trial and error, which oftentimes inevitably leads to suffering and heartbreak.

In order to better understand love we need to look at relationships from an outside viewpoint. Ideally, every successful relationship should be a wild romantic affair of two people made for each other, but in reality most aren’t. Most relationships are successful because the people involved communicate with each other and work towards making themselves and their significant other happy. This means you and your partner need to have goals that both of you are working towards. Your life desires and expectations don’t have to be the exact same as your partner’s but it helps to share a set of values and goals. Communicating these values early on is important in establishing a healthy relationship. Dating shouldn’t be used as a last resort for finding love but as a screening process in search of a person that is right for you.

1. Love Yourself

It might seem like an overused concept, but loving yourself is the first step towards being loved and loving others. If you’re comfortable with who you are you will appear more confident and attractive to those around you. The reason why so many romantic affairs end up badly is because one of the partners is leaning emotionally on the other. The fear that they’re not good enough for their partner makes them appear needy and insecure which undermines the relationship. In order to maintain healthy relationships, both partners need to be able to stand on their own. They need to be confident in their own abilities and learn to support each other in everything they do.

2. Be Available

Dates and special occasions shouldn’t be the only places to meet someone. Don’t rely on weddings, birthdays or other special arrangements to meet new people. Be available every day. We interact with a lot of people on a daily basis but yet we somehow believe that we can only find love on special occasions. Take your time to get to know the people around you; your soul mate could be just around the corner. Talk to people at the gym or grocery store. You don’t have to ask them on a date while waiting at the check-out but you can make new friends which can later turn into lovers. Be open to new experiences, especially if they involve meeting people you don’t normally interact with.

3. Take the First Step

Finding someone interesting is not a daily occurrence. Don’t miss your chances when opportunity comes knocking. Society has artificial norms by which men and women interact. Don’t be afraid to take the first step in asking someone on a date. One of the things I have learned in recent years is that ‘it’s ok to ask a guy out on a date’. The anticipation of an answer can be a hard thing to cope with but it’s nowhere near as bad as the regret of not taking your chances. Remember that the answer is either ‘yes’ or ‘no’. No may be a response and it it’s yes, it’s a bonus. People think that taking the first step somehow weakens their status when in fact it shows confidence and self-control. Confidence is always sexy and even if the answer is no, you gain the respect of being upfront about your intentions.

4. Let the Past be the Past

Sometimes, past relationships can create unresolved issues which, left unchecked, can undermine future relationships. In order to let go of the past and move on with your life, make sure you seek peace with your ex-partners. You can do this by apologizing or forgiving them and even keep them as your friends. This will allow you to let go and move on to meeting new people and create new relationships without the emotional anchor attached. Ex-partners can be great friends and advisors since you already have a shared past and things in common. However, once a partner becomes a friend you need to set the records straight between you and them and make sure they understand this.

5. Flow with the Go!

There is an inherent need in our society for people to stand out and be different just for the sake of being different. If you want to stand-out of a crowd in order to attract someone don’t do it by standing on the side when the people in the room are dancing. You need to be an integral part of society in order to meet new people and develop relationships. Leave your ego and fears at the door and accept that sometimes you have to be part of the crowd. Stand out by being confident in your abilities and not by creating an artificial persona that you can’t live up to. A Life Design Coach can help you to ‘step in front of your shadow’ and ‘turn up the volume on your life’! When you develop techniques and strategies from Life Design Coaching, you will ‘flow with the go’ effortlessly and this will become a natural part of who you are and were always meant to be.