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Way Improve Love And Relationships

Love in any relationship brings with it many expectations and much hope. Being loved unconditionally is the paramount dream of a great many people. When you are loved unconditionally it means you are accepted for whom and for what you are; having a sense of belonging and acceptance; the feeling of being protected and safe; but most of all it means deep rooted intimacy, romance and passion united by an everlasting bond.

But in time love and the relationship get onto the wrong pathway. Hope dies and in place of love comes anger, frustration and loneliness. During the honeymoon stage, the relationship is often based on lust and the illusion of you both becoming one. But in due course this magical image diminishes and the dream is broken. The fact is that the two people involved in a relationship are different. They have different needs, different expectations and different directions. However it is important to understand that the disenchantment that follows the discovery of this reality is expected, and is an unavoidable step on the pathway to finding true love and happiness. You just need to work on it.

Even with the best intentions, all relationships can gradually run down. Early pleasures become common place and boring, minor flaws become major faults, little eccentricities become really irritating. In order to counteract this it is advisable to surprise each other with new pleasures every now and again – the special complement, a card to say “I love you”, a walk along the beach, flowers or a candle lit dinner are just afew examples.

So how do you make love and relationships work? Is it commitment to the strength of your romantic dream; an alignment of your value systems; appropriate communication skills; or is it just matter of luck?

Some say that the success of love and relationships is directly related to the evolutionary theory and to leadership. Leadership is the secret to a successful relationship. Genetically men are programmed as leaders. It goes back to the caveman days and involves the hunter instinct. The hunter mode is very strong in men when they first meet a new girlfriend. They show off their leadership skills – they ask her out; they pay for the meal; they open the door; they ask for her hand in marriage. And women, because of their biological instincts, are subconsciously attracted to this behaviour – they fall heads over heals in love with this potential husband; this provider; this potential father of their children. The truth is that this genetic programming makes sure that mankind survives.

The secret to saving a marriage lies in building attraction, not in solving problems. It is a fact that woman are driven more by emotion than logic. Therefore men, if you are always apologizing, discussing, compromising, grovelling or begging, it is like water off a duck’s back – it just washes over a woman and may even kill the attraction you have for each other.

I am not saying that communication is not important. An effective leader will naturally have good relationship skill. In all relationship or leadership roles it is necessary to have good effective communication skills such as:

  • Effective listening skills – understand your partner and have empathy. Good listening makes certain that you keep in tune with your partner and see your relationship through their eyes. When you listen well to what your partner is saying you are actually saying that you care.
  • The ability to express your feelings properly, and the ability to understand your partner’s feeling without judgement. Be assertive rather than passive when communicating your emotions. It is important to really care about your partner’s feelings.
  • A clean communication style – avoid things like being judgemental, blame, accusations, put downs, threats, bringing up old history, negative comparisons. Address the action not the person.
  • Good negotiation skills – couples negotiate with their partner all the time. Negotiation is a process where both partners are involved in deciding how things in the relationship will be done, i.e. housework, bringing up children or taking a holiday. Negotiations need to be fair allowing both partners to achieve their goals without manipulation, hurt or regret.
  • A constructive, healthy conflict resolution method. Deal with old conflicts and resentments and put them to bed and then develop some strategies to deal with current problems effectively. Take time out if necessary to stop fights escalating into verbal or physical abuse.

It is also important to learn how to cope with anger, whether you are the aggressor or the victim, because anger damages intimate relationships. Anger, whether openly aggressive or disguised as passive aggressive, causes emotional scars which deteriorate with each outburst, which in turn has a detrimental effect on both intimacy and trust. Emotional abuse has the same effects as physical abuse on a person.

So what do you have to do to build attraction and to develop an appropriate “couple system” to save your marriage? You need to work on the male’s leadership skills and rekindle the hunter instinct in him so that he becomes that amazing, compelling, dynamic, charismatic leader she was attracted to at first. And then the female’s biology will take care of the rest. Your sex drive will be reactivated and you will both fall wildly madly in love again. Every argument can turn into a passionate love making session!

And the good thing is that it is never too early or too late to learn new skills which will help you to have the ideal relationship. Everyone needs to work on their relationship skills – new lovers, long term partners and partners who are already experiencing difficulties with their relationship even where all hope of keeping the love and the relationship alive has vanished.

Love and relationships takes hard work, but it is important to work smarter not harder on them to achieve a long, happy, passionate and successful relationship.

History of Valentine Day

Valentine’s Day is coming and has you dream to get a fantastic gift box from your lover? Every February 14, across the United States and in other places around the world, candy, flowers and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint, and where did these traditions come from?

Today Valentine’s Day is celebrated in many countries around the world, mostly in the west,, although it remains a working day in all of them. In the 5th or 6th century, a work called Passio Marii et Marthae invented a story of martyrdom for Saint Valentine of Rome, with apparently no basis on any historical fact. It claims that St Valentine was persecuted as a Christian and interrogated by Roman Emperor Claudius2 in person. Claudius was impressed by Valentine and had a discussion with him, attempting to get him to convert to Roman Paganism in order to save his life. Valentine refused and tried to convert Claudius to Christianity instead. Because of this, he was executed. Before his execution, he is reported to have performed a miracle by healing the blind daughter of his jailer Asterius. A later Passio repeated the legend, adding the invention that Pope Julius1 built a church over his sepulcre (it’s a confusion with a 4th century tribune called Valentino who donated land to build a church at a time when Julius was a Pope).The legend was picked up as fact by later martyrologies, starting by Bede’s martyrology in the 8th century. It was repeated in the 13th century, in Legenda Aurea. The book expounded briefly the Early Medieval acta of several Saint Valentines, and this legend was assigned to the Valentine under 14 February.

Since Legenda Aurea still provided no connections whatsoever with sentimental love, appropriate lore has been embroidered in modern times to portray Valentine as a priest who refused an unattested law attributed to Roman Emperor Claudius II, allegedly ordering that young men remain single. The Emperor supposedly did this to grow his army, believing that married men did not make for good soldiers. The priest Valentine, however, secretly performed marriage ceremonies for young men. When Claudius found out about this, he had Valentine arrested and thrown in jail.

There is an additional modern embellishment to The Golden Legend, provided by American Greetings to History, and widely repeated despite having no historical basis whatsoever. On the evening before Valentine was to be executed, he would have written the first “valentine” card himself, addressed to the daughter of his jailer, who was no longer blind, signing as “From your Valentine.”

The rise of Internet popularity at the turn of the millennium is creating new traditions. Millions of people use modern means of creating and sending Valentine’s Day sending gifts such as jewelry case or a sleeping pillow and so on every year. An estimated 15 million e-valentines were sent in 2010. Valentine’s Day is considered by some to be a Hallmark Holiday due to its commercialization.

Things to avoid in a Romantic Relationship

  • Jealousy:

The most common problem that a couple faces is arguably jealousy. Many relationships have ended for that reason and many will end and here we try to make it easier to understand what jealousy does. Jealousy could come from lack of self-esteem and the idea that your partner may cheat on you is devastating to the partner because that is the first thing they come to think about.

While it might has nothing to do with your partner and it comes from someone that you do not trust around them, it immediately gives them the impression that you do not trust them enough and trust is one of the most important assets of any relationship.

  • Anger:

Talking in rage is something everyone should avoid. Most of the things you say are things you do not mean but of course, you would think otherwise just like your partner would.

Nobody would take anger easily unless it’s harmless. When you tell your girlfriend that you are not happy with her, she will be devastated and she will think that you mean what you said. Of course, you might not mean that but it comes to what they think and how many times you say it. When you are angry, hurting someone’s feelings is something that will soothe your own pain and thus, it is something you should avoid.
  • Obsession:

Sometimes the worst thing that could happen is the fact that your partner thinks that you cannot live without them. The obsession you show your partner will ultimately have a negative effect on the relationship as a whole.

When your partner gives you the impression that you cannot live without them, you will start to become more challenging and want to prove to them that you can and that is never something good. You know what happens.

  • Space:

This is something necessary in every relationship. If you do not give your partner the space they need then most likely you will end up having negative drama that will be bad for your relationship. If your partner wants to go out alone then don’t follow them around and keep calling for no reason or else they will feel that you cannot trust them enough.

When your partner needs space, you should accept that and help them achieve it the way they want. There is nothing you can do to step in the way or else they will be suffocated by you. Ultimately, that leads to failure in keeping the relationship as it was.

The Importance of Love yourself

Here are some tips that can help you love yourself a little more:

1. You need to be able to come up with valid reasons for why you should love yourself.

No matter what you might think right now, if you put some time and thought into coming up with reasons why you should love yourself, I think you will come up with some really valid reasons. And the more you concentrate on those things, the more you will find that you do feel like you are worth loving and it will come from you first and foremost.

2. You have to realize that any mistakes that you have made should be lessons to learn from and nothing more than that.

One of the reasons why some women find it hard to love themselves is that they are focused on mistakes that they may have made in the past. The thing with that is, we have all made mistakes in the past and you can’t allow them to make you feel like you are not really worthy of loving yourself.

3. The more confidence that you build, the easier it is to feel like you really do love yourself.

Gaining confidence is something that you can benefit from if you want to find love. When you have a healthy amount of self confidence, then you really can feel free to express love for yourself and that confidence is going to end up also being very attractive to the right man. So, this is one of those situations where you really can’t go wrong if you build up your confidence in yourself.

Man can make a Woman Happy

Being ready for relationship requires being male man or female woman first. Relationship requires being ready to love with the idea of being father or being mother before a happy relationship can start. Thus a happy relationship requires inner healing of both partners.

Most humans are for too long time far away from their heavenly home in God. As a result of such venture into worlds often separated from God and empty of God love, many got hurt and have hurting memories and inner injuries resulting in restricted passion or even rejection or denial of falling in deep love again.

A lack of interest in having children or a rejection of having children is nothing else but a refusal to really fall in love. To fall in deep love and to let love really and freely flow inside and outside between male and female.

Denial of being a male man or female woman usually results from damaged relationship or missing relationship with own parents. Love and romance between father and mother are the experience that creates desire to be a grown up male man or female woman or fear growing up as man or woman! Such fear thus results in suppressing inner woman or inner man.

If children grow up in a happy family with mother and father being in love with each other. In love means having a sweet romance and a happy love life even at advanced age. Then such children have experienced a positive example how relationship can be.

If however parents are fighting or unhappy or divorced, then a child only has a negative example how never to be. Based on that negative example, a child may grow up and avoid all the mistakes made by parents, yet still has to figure out how the positive way of being male man or female woman would be.

The only efficient and direct way to heal your inner woman or man is a direct relationship to God.

God’s love can heal any injury no matter how old or deep. To experience God’s healing passion, you need to open for God first. Then you need repeated time for God love to flow into and through you to achieve inner healing. Kriya Yoga is one such powerful sacred practice that opens for God and directs God’s all healing love into all chakras, into all aspects of a human being until complete healing is achieved.

Jesus teachings on love give you a complete and thorough guide for your entire life, for all aspects of your life from work to family and recreation. Only a truly loving life can be a solid ground to start a lasting romance and relationship between a woman and a man. The complete process of inner healing may take from a single moment in deepest love prayer to God or a few years of steady deepening Kriya Yoga practice. It all depends on how open for God you are and how much time you allow God to heal you.

Make Loved One Smile

There are many special occasions in life such as your wedding day, anniversary, honeymoon and birthday which we want to make especially memorable. Recalling the sweet memories of these days is a source of joy and happiness that lasts forever. This is the reason why many people prefer to celebrate their happy moments in life with great enthusiasm and fervor. Nowadays, room decoration is becoming a very common concept and people like to get their rooms decorated for particular occasion to express their feeling of love and affection to their loved ones. These pleasant surprises bring a smile on people’s face and make them feel precious.

Room decoration is an art which requires creativity and innovative ideas. Some people like to decorate the rooms themselves while others prefer to hire professional designers to do the job. All they want is to get the best result. Some occasions like wedding days and honeymoons are very special and they only take place once in a lifetime. For this, romantic rooms with special themes are designed to make the couple relax and enjoy to the fullest. Flickering candles, sweet aromas of fruity oils and elegant bedding with flowers and roses give a sense of freshness and help in bringing closeness and love between them.

Similarly, some people also like to surprise their family members and friends on their birthdays. Through room decoration, they can make their room look more colorful and enjoyable. Balloons, ribbons, glittering lights, etc. are used to enhance the room decor.. Photography is a must on these occasions. Hence, if the room decoration is done in a proper way, it may help in taking good pictures as well.

On such special occasions, you don’t always have to express your love in words. Let the colors and decor do the magic. When a loved one is invited to step into a romantic room where the decoration is done in an elegant way, it ought to make him or her fall in love with you more. This helps in creating a stronger mutual relationship between the couple with more care and interest for each other. Trust is the most important factor while loving someone. With appropriate room decoration, you can show your partner how much you love and care for him/her. These small actions can leave long lasting effects in your life.

Tips Make Relationship Strong

Here are some tips which would definitely help you bring back the spark and get the romance back into your relationship.

  • First and foremost, you need to communicate and communicate freely. Couples often shy or hide stuff from each other because of various reasons. Usually they don’t want to hurt the other person, so they think it’s better to stay quite rather than talk out thing and create a problem. But what they don’t realize is that not communicating and keeping things to yourself can lead to bigger problems. In such a case you remain entangled in your own problems and the other person is left wondering what’s wrong with you. Otherwise also, it’s always good to talk out all the differences so that both of you are on the same tangent.
  • Secondly, give the other person space in a relationship. Though it is important to communicate in a relationship, it is also equally important to give space to each other so that a person doesn’t feel suffocated. It is a common problem that a person often has problem when their partner goes out with their friends. You need to understand that your partner has a life of his own which comprises of their friends and family. If they are spending quality time with you and if they are paying enough attention to your relationship, then, you should not feel threatened if they are going out with friends or family.

Also, it is great if you both could join a hobby or a sport together. It would give you not only more time to spend together, but it’ll also be a nice exercise for your mind and body, which would keep you in a healthy and happy mental state. The hobby could be anything, be it painting, dancing, singing, gymming, biking etc.

  • Going on a vacation together is no doubt one of the easiest ways to strengthen your bond. The entire act of packing and travelling would bring you both closer. And exploring new places together would definitely keep you both excited and energized.
  • Another way to make your bind strong is to be cordial and close to your partner’s family and friends. They would like it if you make an effort to adjust with the rest of the people in their life.
  • Last but not the least, giving surprises and gifts to your partner is one of the oldest tricks of the trade to keep your partner happy and wanting for more!

Reasons why readers make Fantastic Lovers

  1. Readers are smarter and more intelligent. Reading makes people wise, and that’s a fact. They get higher GPA and have an overall knowledge of various topics. And making reading a lifetime habit is great for sharpening your mind and preventing Alzheimer disease.
  2. A reading man is responsive, imaginative, and creative in figuring out solutions to a problem. Book lovers do well in a sticky situation. They learned diverse world, people and views. Their creative thoughts can make life and conversation interesting. You can never know what will surprises you next second.
  3. They get better memory, and they will never forget your anniversary. Digesting what they’re reading, character, scene or plot can keep renewing and strengthening their brains. Therefore, they can remember daily routines better.
  4. They are less likely to be overstressed. Reading is a pleasant pastime, and they can hit the books if they need to find a way to vent the pressure. This also benefits their partners. Any trifle easily triggers a quarrel between a stressed couple.
  5. With an impressive vocabulary and storytelling ability, people who love reading make wonderful conversationist. Nothing is worse than an awkward conversation on a date. Comparing to people reading less, they have a border vocabulary and are better spoken. Therefore, it’s interesting to talk with them. They often think about life in a unique and deep way, which can rise your conversation to a higher and funnier level.
  6. They look more artistic and erudite. They are more likely to make arts, go to concert or museum. What do you think about such a date?
  7. They are more likely to get an ample salary and succeed in their careers. Lacking of reading and writing skills is the biggest shortcoming of new employee. Therefore, the readers have greater chance to get an offer. Moreover, they are more likely to take a management position, naturally get a higher salary.
  8. They are more obliged to fulfill their social responsibilities. Not only do they take votes in election, but also are more willing to do volunteer works. Being selfless makes one more glamorous, and volunteering together can get your relationship intimate and harmonious.
  9. They are understanding and empathetic. They empathize others and understand other’s idea, feeling and world view. Empathy is crucial to a relationship in reducing disputes and harmonizing this connection.
  10. They are passionate, vibrant, clever and complex. If you are with a reader, consider yourself lucky. With an incredible mind, imagination, wit and heart, they will challenge you quite unlike anyone else has before

Unconditional Love

Our parents loved us in the best way they could and if we were lucky – that was unconditional. However, not all parents are capable of giving it unconditionally. Parenting is challenging – to say the least. Then there is the programming passed down through the generations on how to parent via society and family. I personally think it takes a really conscious person to develop and follow their own road map to parenting. That is a topic for another time. For now, we are talking about unconditional love.

What does loving unconditionally mean? In my most humble opinion – it is, loving someone without attachment or the desire to receive anything in return – including returned love. It is giving without any expectations or ROI (return on investment). Unconditional love is limitless, boundless and unchanging. Most of the time we humans – put conditions on it. We say: “I will love you, if….” Or “I am falling out of love with you because….”

Unconditional love has an element of altruism at it’s’ core. Altruism is a virtue. It is selflessness without the feelings of duty or the need to be loyal. If we feel it is our duty to give of ourselves – that is a moral obligation and not unconditional. Being altruistic is sacrificing self with no expectation to be compensated, in any way. This also includes any expectation of becoming enlightened, gaining merit or going to heaven.

I know this is a touchy subject and at the same time, it must be mentioned. There are people who perform deeds with the above intentions in mind. I think it is wonderful to give and help and I also believe we have to be clear about why we are doing something. What is the motivation? If the intention is to gain in any way – it cannot be considered unconditional.

So, how do we obtain this seemingly illusive form of love? First of all, I believe we have to give it to ourselves. We must love all the aspects of self, including the aspects we don’t like. I know this sounds hard, and at the same time it is the truth. Our world is a mirror. It mirrors back to us our beliefs and feelings. If we don’t love ourselves, we will just get that mirrored back – sometimes in a very big way. We must dig into our subconscious to ferret out all the ways we sabotage receiving the love we so desperately seek.

Secondly, we must stop looking to other people to give us love of any kind. If we consistently look outside of ourselves for someone else to love us, we will never get it – it’s the mirror again.

Thirdly, we do receive unconditional love. It’s all around us – we just need to see it. It is our view of the world that causes us not to see that we are loved. We are – each of us – a part of the Great Mother and Father, who loves us unconditionally. It really doesn’t matter what we have or haven’t done – we are still loved. One group of people isn’t loved any more or less than any other group of people. Think about it, when it rains – doesn’t everyone outside get wet?

I know this is a simple example and maybe I should make it more complex. The point is however, if we look within we will feel the love that we seek. The Great Mother and Father live within each of us. They are waiting for us to look in the mirror of self. When we do this, their love is reflected back to us. It is boundless, altruistic, unchanging, and unconditional, no strings attached love. We then will begin to see things as they really are.

Facts Concerning Love

Here square measure some psychological facts concerning love:

Vein of affection

Do you why couple wears their band of the fourth finger of their left hand? It’s to believe classical mythology that there’s vein through this finger that is direct joined to the guts. Thus sporting ring during this finger show a logo of a powerful bond.

Pain of affection

Being taken with is simply concerning happiness and care; it’ll additionally offer your physical or mental pain. It’s one in every of the psychological science facts concerning love is that you simply could become too possessive or perpetually in concern or stress of losing the one you love.

All that matters is love.

Many studies have shown that nobody should buy love together with his wealth. It’s a lot of valuable than power or million greenbacks. You’ll get luxury however not love; it’s the sole issue that matters within the finish.

Hard to steer away

This one could be a true truth concerning love; it’s straightforward to like somebody than to steer away. If somebody is deeply taken with that person can’t live while not his beloved. It perpetually feels sensible and gratifying to be around somebody you like.

Goosebumps in abdomen

Feeling Goosebumps in your abdomen before proposing or spoken communication those 3 sorcerous words is another psychological facts concerning love. Such feeling is like doing acrobats once your brain comes within the stage of a fight along with your heart. You’ll feel frazzled or butterfly feeling.

Minutes to decide: is it enticing or not.

Psychologist says that it take solely a number of minutes to make a decision whether or not you wish somebody or not. In such scenario, the most person can say one thing and do something; even they need modified their tone.

Humor and intelligence

According to psychological science girls sort of a man World Health Organization possess an excellent sense of humor and physique. Men like those girls with intelligence and World Health Organization have bone structure and have some alikeness with their mother. This can be additionally referred to as “sexual imprinting”.

Eyes contact will synchronize heartbeat.

If you examine the attention of the one you love, each of your heart gets synchronous. U.S life scientist Davis checked heterosexual couples pulse rate and located that their heart rates adjust if they co-regulated their psychologies with their beloved partner.

Love Addiction

Intense part of affection offers identical ecstasy as junky gets from smoking cocaine. Being taken with will increase the amount of nor vasoconstrictive, epinephrine and monoamine neurotransmitter chemicals poignant your emotions and feelings.

Love is medicinal drug

One of the facts of affection is that once each partners cuddle one another internal secretion internal secretion seems in ovaries, brain, and testicles that decrease a headache and act as a medicinal drug.